Ready, Set, Go: How Do Others See You?

The statements below describe common features of our personalities. First, make a few copies of the page. Then mark an A next to the traits that always describe you, an S next to those that sometimes describe you and an N by those that never apply. Hand the copies out to your friends, and ask them to mark their impressions of you. See how their view of you stacks up against your view of yourself. There are, of course, no right or wrong answers—only more or less descriptive ones.
____ Is critical, skeptical, not easily impressed
____ Is a genuinely dependable and responsible person
____ Behaves in a giving way to others
____ Is fastidious, fussy about minor things
____ Is uncomfortable with uncertainty and complexities
____ Is thin-skinned, sensitive to anything that can be construed as criticism or an interpersonal slight
____ Is skilled in social techniques of imaginative play, pretending and humor
____ Initiates humor
____ Has a rapid personal tempo; behaves and acts quickly
____ Prides self on being "objective," rational
____ Is productive; gets things done
____ Shows condescending behavior in relations with others
____ Regards self as physically attractive
____ Seems to be aware of the impression he or she makes on others
____ Is calm, relaxed in manner
____ Is overreactive to minor frustrations, irritable
____ Has warmth; has the capacity for close relationships; is compassionate
____ Is guileful and deceitful, manipulative, opportunistic
____ Thinks and associates ideas in unusual ways; has unconventional thought processes
____ Is reluctant to commit self to any definite course of action; tends to delay or avoid action
____ Is facially and/or gesturally expressive
____ Has a readiness to feel guilt
____ Keeps people at a distance; avoids close interpersonal relationships
____ Is unpredictable in behavior and attitudes
____ Is protective of those close to him or her
____ Behaves in an assertive fashion; speaks up to get what he or she wants
____ Gives up and withdraws where possible in the face of frustration and adversity
____ Is self-defeating
____ Responds to humor
____ Has insight into own motives and behaviors
____ Tends to be rebellious and nonconforming
____ Judges self and others in conventional terms like "popularity," "the correct thing to do," social pressures, etc.
____ Is socially perceptive of a wide range of interpersonal cues
____ Characteristically pushes and tries to stretch limits; sees what he/she can get away with
____ Is sensitive to anything that can be construed as a demand
____ Tends to project own feelings and motivations onto others
____ Is basically anxious
____ Appears straightforward, forthright and candid in dealing with others
____ Is self-pitying; feels cheated and victimized by life
____ Tends to ruminate and have persistent, preoccupying thoughts
____ Compares self to others; is alert to real or fancied differences between self and other people
____ Is power-oriented; values power in self and others
____ Is self-dramatizing, histrionic
____ Does not vary roles; relates to everyone in the same way

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