Few Expectations to Find Love

While we start looking for a long-term partner or go through a romantic relationship, lots of us do so with a predetermined set of expectations for example how the person should look & behave, how the affiliation should progress, & the roles each partner should perform. These expectations may be based on your family history, manipulate of your peer group, your past experiences, / even ideals portrayed in movies & TV shows. However, retaining many of these impractical expectations can make any potential partner seem inadequate & any new relationship feel unsatisfactory.

Consider what is really important while looking for love

The 1st step to finding a suitable partner is to distinguish between what you want & what you need in a partner. Wants are negotiable, needs aren’t. Wants include the things you think you would like in a partner, including intellect, occupation, & physical attributes such as height, weight, & hair color. Even if certain features may appear to be crucially important to you at first, over time you will often find that you have been needlessly limiting your choices. For example, it may be more significant, or at least as important, to find somebody who is:

• Curious rather than very intelligent. Curious people tend to grow smarter over time, as those who’re bright may languish intellectually if they lack curiosity.
• Sensual sooner than sexy.
• Caring sooner than beautiful or handsome.
• A little mysterious sooner than glamorous.
• Humorous before wealthy.
• From a family by similar values to yours, before someone from a specific ethnic / social background. 

Needs are dissimilar than wants in that needs are those things that matter to you mainly, such as ambitions, values, or goals in life. These aren’t probably the things you can find out about a person via eyeing them on the street, analysis their profile on a dating site, / sharing a quick cocktail at a bar prior to last call.